When discussing with women the whole male-female thing, "confidence" is usually a big word. Women like confidence. Confidence is attractive.
When observing male-female interactions and pursuits in bars/casinos/the sidewalk, it is apparent that confident people are douchebags.
True confidence, whatever that is, perhaps not a bad thing. But the performance of confidence by people
who have been advised to show confidence, or are confident that confidence alone will advance them? Dude.
"I am confident that this is true. I am confident that your contrary opinion is wrong. I am confident that you want to be told what to do."
Also, women have been known to confuse "confidence" with entitlement. Because entitled dudes are confident, which is to say sure, that you owe it to them. But to be fair, the gals who make that mistake have been making their own bed for a while.
There is a kind of tunnel-vision confidence that it takes to exert your will over another person, and another kind that is needed to be a writer, adding excessive words to a world that already has sunsets. That second kind does not really get you laid as often.
So, what I'm saying is, fuck confidence.